How to avoid negative pendulums?

How to Avoid Negative Pendulums in Reality Transurfing

Reality Transurfing uses unusual language, but it points to something deeply familiar. We all get pulled into emotional fields that drain energy, distort perception, and quietly direct our behavior. Vadim Zeland calls these fields “pendulums.”

A pendulum is any structure that feeds on attention and emotional energy. It can be social, like outrage cycles, status games, or political tribalism. It can be relational, like toxic bonds, jealousy loops, or power struggles. It can also be internal, like chronic self criticism, fear, guilt, or obsessive thinking. 

When many people invest emotion into the same pattern, it gains momentum. Once it has momentum, it begins to pull individuals into predictable reactions.

A negative pendulum is not just something unpleasant. It is something that weakens you. It makes your inner state heavier, narrower, more reactive and less free. It trains your nervous system to live in tension instead of clarity. Over time, it quietly steers your choices, your mood and even the kind of life variations you slide into.

Avoiding negative pendulums is not about escaping reality. It is mostly learning how to move through it without being constantly hijacked.

This is the core of Transurfing. Inner independence.

Not indifference. Not suppression. Not forced positivity.

The ability to remain present, calm and self directed even when emotionally charged structures are trying to pull you into their rhythm.

To understand how to avoid negative pendulums, you first need to understand how they work inside you.

What a Negative Pendulum Actually Is

A pendulum is born when people repeatedly invest attention and emotion into the same idea, problem, identity, fear or desire. Over time, this repeated energy creates a stable pattern. That pattern then begins to sustain itself by provoking more attention and emotion.

News cycles thrive on fear and outrage. Social media thrives on comparison and validation hunger. Ideological conflicts thrive on identity and hostility. Even self improvement culture can become a pendulum when it feeds on shame, urgency and the feeling that something is always wrong with you.

A pendulum always has three characteristics.

First, it pulls attention. You find yourself thinking about it without choosing to. You feel the urge to check, react, argue, worry or explain.

Second, it charges emotion. There is irritation, excitement, fear, pride, guilt, or resentment. Rarely neutrality.

Third, it reduces awareness. Your perception narrows. You become more mechanical. You start playing a role rather than making a conscious choice.

In simple psychological terms, a negative pendulum is a self reinforcing emotional-cognitive loop that runs you.

In Transurfing terms, it is an external structure that lives through you.

Avoiding negative pendulums does not mean destroying them. You cannot destroy them. They exist as long as people feed them. The only power you truly have is to stop being a food source.

The moment you stop supplying emotional energy, the pendulum loses its grip on you.

This is not a moral act. It is an energetic and psychological one.

The Core Fuel of All Pendulums: Excess Importance

In Reality Transurfing, the main fuel of pendulums is called excess importance.

Excess importance is when something becomes too big inside you.

Too personal.
Too serious.
Too identity bound.
Too emotionally loaded.

It can be positive or negative. Both feed pendulums.

When you desperately want approval, success, love or recognition, you create excess importance. When you intensely fear failure, rejection, loss or humiliation, you create excess importance. Your Attention narrows and your emotional reactivity increases.

Excess importance to external topics or ideas creates imbalance. According to Transurfing, life responds to imbalances by generating forces that restore equilibrium. These forces often appear as obstacles, conflicts or frustrating events. At the psychological level, excess importance makes you easy to hook. Anything that touches the important area provokes a reaction. That reaction is what pendulums feed on.

If someone criticizes what you strongly identify with anger arises.
If something threatens what you are attached to, fear will arise.
If someone supports what you are emotionally invested in, excitement arises.

All of these reactions feed structures outside your conscious control.

This is why the first and most important step in avoiding negative pendulums is reducing excess importance.

Not removing meaning from life, but softening emotional overinvestment.

Reducing Excess Importance Without Becoming Cold

Many people misunderstand this step. They think it means becoming passive, numb or detached from life. That is not what Transurfing points to.

The goal is not to care less. The goal is to cling less.

You can act, choose, build and enjoy without inner tension and without giving too much attention.

Excess importance always has a bodily signature. Tight jaw. Contracted stomach. Shallow breath. Narrowed vision. Mental urgency. Inner commentary.

To reduce it, work directly with the body and attention.

When you notice yourself emotionally hooked, pause. Do not analyze the situation yet.

First, soften the body.

Relax your jaw.
Relax your shoulders.
Let the belly release.
Slow the breath slightly.

Mediatate for 10 minutes. 

Then shift the inner dialogue from involvement to observation.

Instead of “This is happening to me,” feel into “This is happening, and I am noticing it.”

This subtle repositioning changes everything. You step out of the role and into awareness.

Then consciously downgrade the meaning.

“This does not define me.”
“This does not control my future.”
“This does not deserve to dominate my inner state.”
“This matters, but not at the cost of my nervous system.”

You are not denying reality. You are correcting scale.

Pendulums grow when things become psychologically huge. They shrink when things return to their actual size.

A conversation becomes a conversation.
A mistake becomes a mistake.
A desire becomes a desire.
A problem becomes a problem.

Not an identity, not a destiny, not a threat to you.

This inner resizing is one of the most powerful anti pendulum practices there is.

The Shift From Reaction to Witnessing

A pendulum cannot attach to awareness. It can only attach to automaticity.

The moment you see what is happening as it is happening, the spell weakens.

This is why Transurfing places such emphasis on the “watcher.”

The watcher is the part of you that notices your thoughts, emotions, and impulses instead of being submerged in them.

Most of the time, people live inside their reactions. They are anger. They are fear. They are desire. They are offense. They are excitement. The experience and the observer are fused.

When a pendulum pulls you, you forget that you are perceiving. You think you are simply living reality.

The practice is to repeatedly step into the position of noticing.

“I am noticing irritation.”
“I am noticing the urge to argue.”
“I am noticing anxiety in the body.”
“I am noticing the impulse to check.”

This is not suppression. You do not push the state away. You do not indulge it either. You allow it to be there while staying present as the one who is aware.

This breaks the automatic energy transfer.

A pendulum thrives on unconscious participation. Conscious presence starves it.

Over time, this witnessing becomes more natural. You start catching emotional hooks earlier. Sometimes at the level of bodily sensation before the story even forms. That is real freedom.

Why Fighting Pendulums Makes Them Stronger

One of the most counterintuitive ideas in Reality Transurfing is that fighting negative pendulums feeds them.

When you fight something emotionally, you grant it importance. You invest attention. You strengthen the neural and behavioral circuits associated with it. Even hatred is food.

Outrage cycles survive because people believe opposing them will weaken them. In reality, outrage is their lifeblood.

The same applies internally. If you constantly fight your fear, your lust, your procrastination, or your negative thoughts, you keep them central. You turn them into permanent reference points.

The pendulum does not care whether the emotion is positive or negative. It cares about intensity and repetition.

This is why Transurfing suggests a different approach.

Do not fight.
Do not flee.
Do not justify.

Withdraw energy.

That means responding neutrally, minimally, or not at all where possible. It means choosing actions without emotional charge. It means refusing to mentally rehearse, dramatize and relive.

It also means not building an identity around resistance. “I am someone who is constantly battling X” is still a relationship with X. And relationships feed pendulums.

Energy withdrawal feels anticlimactic. The ego wants drama. The nervous system is used to stimulation. Neutrality feels empty at first. But that emptiness is space. Space is where self directed choice can arise.

Reality Transurfing treats attention not just as a mental faculty, but as a creative force. Where attention goes, energy flows. Where energy flows, life organizes.

Negative pendulums specialize in harvesting attention.

They use novelty, fear, sexuality, conflict, validation, and identity to pull the spotlight again and again. Every time attention is captured, perception is shaped. Every time perception is shaped, behavior follows. Over time, this sculpts reality lines.

To avoid negative pendulums, you must reclaim attention as something you allocate, not something that is constantly taken.

This starts with honest observation.

Where does your attention live most of the day?
What emotional tone dominates your information diet?
What do you repeatedly return to mentally?
What do you argue with in your head?
What do you worry about when there is nothing urgent?

These reveal your current pendulum ecosystem.

Once you see this, the next step is not to forcibly block everything, but to consciously invest attention elsewhere.

Attention needs direction. If you only remove stimulation, it will seek another pendulum. If you give it a constructive channel, it stabilizes. Turn the attention towards - 

Skill building.
Learning.
Physical training.
Creative work.
Quiet rituals.
Long term projects.
Contemplative reading.
Nature.
Craft.

These activities strengthen self directed attention. They anchor energy in processes that do not feed mass emotional structures.

A person with a rich inner and practical life becomes less useful to pendulums. There is less empty space for them to occupy.
Working With Internal Pendulums

The most powerful negative pendulums are internal.

1.Self criticism.
2.Chronic dissatisfaction.
3.Comparison.
4.Shame.
5.Fear narratives.
6.Compulsive fantasy.
7.Endless analysis.

These may feel personal, but they function the same way as social pendulums. They pull attention. They charge emotion. They reduce awareness.

Often, people try to solve them through argument. They debate their thoughts. They try to prove them wrong. They analyze their origin. Sometimes this helps, but often it becomes another layer of the same structure.

From a Transurfing perspective, the first task is not to correct content, but to change relationship.

Instead of engaging the voice, you recognize the process.

“This is the familiar loop.”
“This is the old script.”
“This is the same pattern.”

Then you return attention to sensation, action, or presence.

Feet on the ground.
Breath in the body.
Hands doing the task.
Eyes seeing the room.

You do not need to defeat every thought. You need to stop letting them set the agenda.

Over time, when internal pendulums are not constantly reinforced with emotion and rumination, they weaken. They arise less often. They carry less charge. They pass more quickly.

This is not mystical. It is how nervous systems and neural networks work.

What is not used, loses strength.

Reality Transurfing distinguishes between outer intention and inner intention.

Outer intention is willpower. Forcing. Straining. Pushing reality. It often carries tension.

Inner intention is alignment. Readiness. Calm expectation. It feels like moving with a current rather than against it.

Avoiding negative pendulums strengthens inner intention.

Why? Because when you are not constantly reacting, defending, and emotionally investing, your energy becomes available for clear choice.

Inner intention arises when the mind is not busy maintaining dramas.

You begin to sense which actions feel light and which feel heavy. Which directions create expansion and which create contraction. Which environments nourish you and which drain you.

This sensitivity is lost when pendulums dominate attention. Everything becomes noisy. Urgent. Charged. Confusing.

As negative pendulums lose influence, perception clears. Decision making simplifies. You are less pulled by what repels you and more guided by what quietly attracts you.

This is the deeper payoff of pendulum detox. Not just peace, but navigability.

Avoiding negative pendulums is not a one time decision. It is a lifestyle of attention.

Here is a simple framework you can adapt - 

1. Morning positioning

At the start of the day, before information intake, sit for two minutes.

Notice the body.
Notice the breath.
Ask, “What quality do I choose to carry today?”

Calm.
Clarity.
Steadiness.
Curiosity.
Lightness.

Then ask, “What am I building?” and name one concrete direction.

This sets an inner reference point before pendulums appear.

2. Real time noticing

Throughout the day, whenever emotional charge arises, practice three steps.

Notice it.
Soften the body.
Name it as a process rather than a truth.

“A pull is happening.”
“A hook is happening.”
“A loop is activating.”

Then return attention to what you are physically doing.

This interrupts automatic feeding.

3. Attention budgeting

Choose specific times for consuming emotionally charged media, if you choose to consume it at all.

Do not scatter it through the day.

Outside those windows, keep attention anchored in tasks, study, creation, or rest.

Pendulums are far less powerful when access is not constant.

4. Evening clearing

At night, review the day briefly.

Where did attention go?
What drained you?
What strengthened you?

Do not judge. Just observe.

Then imagine withdrawing cords of attention from what pulled you. Feel it return to the body. To your space.

This trains the nervous system to release.

The Deeper Meaning of Avoiding Negative Pendulums

On the surface, avoiding negative pendulums looks like emotional regulation and media hygiene.

At a deeper level, it is about sovereignty.

Most people believe they are living their own lives. In reality, large portions of their emotional energy are circulating through structures that do not serve their growth, health, or clarity.

Our moods are shaped by algorithms. Our fears are shaped by narratives. Our desires are shaped by comparison fields. Our identities are shaped by conflict structures.

Transurfing does not ask you to escape society. It asks you to stop being unconsciously used by it.

The more negative pendulums you disengage from, the more you feel something rare.

Internal quiet, not dullness, not boredom. True Quiet.

From that quiet, a different quality of action emerges. Less reactive. More precise. More creative. More self trusting.

You stop spending most of your energy on what you oppose. You begin to invest it in what you are actually here to create.

This is when life starts to feel less like a battlefield and more like a field of movement.

A negative pendulum is not defeated. It is outgrown.

It loses power when you no longer resonate at its frequency.

This does not require heroic effort. It requires repeated small acts of awareness, softening, and redirection.

Every time you choose not to emotionally rehearse.
Every time you downgrade excess importance.
Every time you notice instead of react.
Every time you invest attention into something real and constructive.

You are stepping out of an old current and into your own.

In Transurfing language, you are reducing potential, dissolving excess importance and restoring balance.

In human language, you are becoming harder to manipulate and easier to be.

And that is the foundation of any conscious life path.